How to get appreciated.

Don't we love when some one appreciates us?
" You did a great job!" , " The meal you cooked is delicious" , "you really helped me".
Sounds nice to listen to. But mostly we dont get appreciated, our efforts are mostly taken for granted.

In the Parenting seminar, I also learned about how to appreciate :
Dont just say words like : nice, good, great, or wonderful, super, etc.
Describe in detail what you like or what you are seeing.

Like when Yashvi brings one of her drawing (they are just lines... straight curved... whatever, but just lines!) So how to appreciate her?
If I say " this is nice" , she will be happy, but still will not improve.
And I am lying.
So instead, i have to tell her that i liked the balloon shape she has made... (actually it is like a closed shape resembling a circle -  attached to a line) and she is really happy now. because she knows that when she makes a circle and a line, it is a balloon... it is not just a scribbling.

Or when she was trying to help me in kitchen, I didnt say she is creating mess or that I liked the way she is rolling the puris.
I just said - "I really liked that you are helping mummy." - Thats her effort. It is not her fault that she is not an expert in rolling the puri. Atleast she wants to help.

And the side benefit I got: appreciation for every little thing I do for her :
Yashvi actually says things like :
" I really liked that you made bournvita for me",
"I really liked that you played with me, instead of going to office",
"I really liked that you took me to fair",
 - getting appreciated for such trivial thing is really Awsome.

So conclusion : Give Appreciation - Get Appreciation.

By the way this works for everyone, your spouse, your boss, your driver,... simply anyone.....

Try it and tell me your experience